When the Current is Pulling You.


When I’m talking with friends or sometimes during coaching sessions, they’ll mention the “whispers” they get to do this or that; and I often hear the phrase, “I’m just following the breadcrumbs.”  

Personally for me, I just don’t see it that way anymore.

It feels more like a current pulling me one way or the other.  

What I mean by the current is basically just life moving through you.  

Pulling you to go this way or that way.
Pulling you to talk to this person or that person.
Pulling you to take a jump, the leap or a hurdle.

To the very next spot (or lily pad :)

It looks to me that when we try to fight the current, the nature of this pull; we often struggle, wrestling with what we think life should look like or what we should or shouldn’t do.

This shows up in our projects as well.

We often think that we know exactly what the answer is.  This to me is more often due to all of the conditioning we had as kids and young adults to...

Get the perfect answer
Say just the right thing
Act exactly like we are told (I’m pretty sure that’s why it’s called acting)

Versus letting ourselves or the project at hand unfold,

In magical ways we couldn’t have possibly foreseen

And then it just shows up FOR you.

You know the times when it looks obvious.

When you run into that exact person that was just on your mind yesterday
When your project takes a turn in what seems like the worst possible way, and then it suddenly flourishes.
When you have a question on your mind and the perfect book with the answer appears.

You might call these moments “luck” or “synchronicity” or the “law of attraction.”

I’ll leave you with a few questions to sit with if you’d like to explore further.  

The answers may seem obvious and as though we have no choice.  Just notice what comes up for you as you reflect on these questions, and the feeling behind the words.

  1. What about all the millions of not-so-obvious ways life is moving through me?

  2. What if I just ride the wave and all of the ripples along the way pull me?

  3. What would it be like if I let go of trying to determine where I’m headed next?

I’ll leave you now with the lyrics of the song “Ripple” by the Grateful Dead.

Enjoy the ripples, and this brand new day!


RIPPLE by the Grateful Dead:

If my words did glow with the gold of sunshine

And my tunes were played on the harp unstrung

Would you hear my voice come through the music

Would you hold it near as it were your own?

It's a hand-me-down, the thoughts are broken

Perhaps they're better left unsung

I don't know, don't really care

Let there be songs to fill the air

Ripple in still water

When there is no pebble tossed

Nor wind to blow

Reach out your hand if your cup be empty

If your cup is full may it be again

Let it be known there is a fountain

That was not made by the hands of men

There is a road, no simple highway

Between the dawn and the dark of night

And if you go no one may follow

That path is for your steps alone

Ripple in still water

When there is no pebble tossed

Nor wind to blow

You who choose to lead must follow

But if you fall you fall alone

If you should stand then who's to guide you?

If I knew the way I would take you home

Why We Do (or don't do) Anything

We make up rules for what we should or shouldn’t do.

This isn’t the right time...
What will they think..  
I’m just not sure…

And if we do this long enough, most of the time not even noticing it until

Years can go by and the rebel you once thought yourself to be has suddenly found herself in an imaginary box that she put herself in.

So you look outside the box, and wonder how you got there in the first place.

What you vaguely remember of yourself is someone who always stood up and went against the norm, doing whatever she wanted, that is, if it occurred to you to do so.

And suddenly you see that there are

No walls
or windows
or ceilings
or floors
or even a box.

You find yourself standing up, walking around, wondering why you stayed there for so long.

Until you realize that it doesn’t really matter. and you feel love for the box that served you for all this time and everything that has been created, happened and received in your life.

It looks as if all there is to do is once again, is what looks best in the moment, except now, you’re not asking those questions so much, and when you occasionally do, you catch yourself, you take notice and smile, oh...I don’t need those questions anymore.

This isn’t the right time...
What will they think..
I’m just not sure…

Because you were always just asking your thoughts to reflect back to you the imaginary fear and dragons, that were never really there in the first place.

You are left with the knowing that you are made of stars, and anything you want is possible.

And from there the only thing to be is fully YOU.

You keep moving in the direction that pulls you, not knowing where you will arrive or what it will look like.

And that’s actually really okay.  

Even better than okay.

It’s the only way to ever go, and always be Home.


Your Role In The Game

If I think for a minute about my journey over the past 41 years, many different roles come to mind.

The entrepreneur, wife, friend, yoga teacher, manager, writer, cook, traveler, coach, sister, mother, to name a few...

When you take a minute and reflect on all of your own experiences and roles through the years,

How does it feel to sit with it?

The insight that’s hitting me now is how all of these roles have been all-consuming (in a good way).  Meaning that when I was living in the trenches of full-on-new motherhood or writing a book, or traveling, or whatever I was up to – I was fully immersed in it.

I was engaged with life as life was living itself through me.  

I just happened to say Yes to whatever form was taking shape in the moment and whatever I wanted to try or master next.

What I’m noticing most is how the moment that’s happening Right Now is the only one I’m really interested in.  I seem to always know what to do next.

And sometimes that’s saying three little words to myself:

I Don’t Know.

And that’s a great place to land because it’s a signal that I’m in a new space and I know that at some point…

I Will Know

Exactly what the very next step is

Because you don’t know until you do.  

This sounds so freaking simple but it’s true.  What I’m seeing for my clients and hearing lately in conversations is that there is absolutely nothing to do

Until There Is.

And the very second we attempt to grab the present moment by the throat and say,

Oh, I’ve Got This.  I Know Best. This Is How It’s Supposed To Look….

We then have to take five or so steps back in the game of life, until we see once again that it’s not on us to figure any of it out.

It seems that our only job in whatever role we find ourselves in (to quote Sydney Banks)
“To Do The Very Best That We Can Given The Thinking We Have In The Moment.”

Life seems to swoop in and take care of the rest as we play in details laid out right in front of us, knowing that we can’t jump ahead ten steps, well, until we see a new opening.

What role do you find is taking up the majority of your time and attention these days?

What new role is whispering to you to try on?

Where would you like to explore or master next on the game board of life?

What openings, free spaces and opportunities are right in front of you that you just can’t see (until you can)?

So much love,

The Funny Thing About Grapes

This week I was away in California experiencing the beginning of a six month journey in Michael Neill’s Emerging Voices Program.

I got a call from home and ended up having a conversation with my daughter Adriana, now 10 years old, about grapes.

Over the weekend, she and Jeff went to pick up groceries together, just the two of them. They wound up in the produce section and that was when she asked him if they could get the green grapes.

Jeff was surprised at the question and said, “Yeah sure, why wouldn’t we be able to get them?”

“Well, Mom doesn’t buy the green grapes because they aren’t as healthy as the red ones, even if they’re organic. Let’s just get them, we don’t have to tell her.”

The only reason I’m able to share this with you, well, is because Jeff told me, of course.

The funny thing is when I asked Adriana about it, she told me how much she loves green grapes and thought they must be bad for you because I never buy them.

I shared with her that the reason I get the red ones is because I thought she hated green grapes, well, because of a memory I have planted somewhere of her when she was much younger, telling me that the green ones are awful.

So there we were together, face-timing about grapes and our thinking around them.

And what I see from this (other than that I’ll be adding more variety and getting really experimental in my shopping and cooking when I get back home; and they better watch out because it’s going to get really interesting) are these two simple truths about the human experience:

We are going to get caught up in our thinking.


We are meant to enjoy our lives, instead of pretending to like what we don’t, or act like it’s all good, just to somehow attempt to comb over the thoughts that others might have about us, that which is impossible, and that which, well, doesn’t really exist.

Enjoy your life. Enjoy your life. Enjoy your life.