Planning in the Present

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I absolutely love this time of year as we approach one of my favorite holidays here in the US – Thanksgiving.  This will be the 19th year that we host the occasion at our house. I take such pride in the menu, the planning and preparation and the whole experience of the feast.

Now, I have to admit that over the years, I would spend so much time planning everything down to the place cards, and in my mind, way, way too early.

I’m not referring to the ordering that needs to take place or the usual shopping involved, but rather the planning in my head.

I would get all caught up in my thinking until Thanksgiving looked like a scary thing I had to overcome, with an hour yoga practice before guests arrived and several glasses of wine throughout.

Now, I’m not saying that I don’t practice yoga anymore or that I don’t enjoy the wine.  

What I noticed about the experience that shifted my thinking, and you can really apply to anything you’re up to:

When we step OUT of the present and go up in our THOUGHTS about some IMAGINARY time in the past or the present, we lose touch with our grounding.

It’s sort of like we trip up ourselves up, slip and fall, sometimes even get smacked upside the head.  We can feel dizzy and almost “out of it.” Out of it meaning, out of our connection with the life force that is always present when we are present to it.

What does this have to do with Thanksgiving and planning in general?

Well, the magic can get lost in our thinking about it.

The aliveness that we feel when we’re working with a project, the presence in the moment, gets shut off like a light switch.
We find ourselves in a dark room with no light switch or window in sight.
Until we wake up to the knowing that we don’t need to “find” a light because


Once we can see that everything we ever need to know is right there in front of us, we stop trying to plan and figure it all out.

And we can get back to what wants to move through us in this very moment, not trying to pretend we can control how it looks or the outcome or how it will turn out.

The moment at hand seems like one big adventure, and depending on our thinking in the moment, that big adventure can look scary or fun.

Life is opening up for us again and again, coming in like waves flowing in the sun.  The deeper mind always has your back, to pick you up and dust you off after you’ve forgotten about your true nature and lose your grounding.  Until you remember once again what you are really made of…

You are made of pure light and love.  

You are opportunity.  
You are creativity.  
You are abundance.   

It was and never will be separate from You.

You are infinite potential – AWAKE.

Now go prepare your menu, as you see it today, without trying to control any or all of the imaginary details…..the images of a made up future or event….that whisper to you now….because, well, they don’t really exist...except as thought in the moment.


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The Coast is Clear

I was driving my daughter to school this morning when the familiar phrase “the coast is clear” came up in our conversation and filled the car with laughter.

Personally, I’ve always loved the phrase and maybe it’s due to my deep love for the ocean and the California coast.  

But lately I’ve been paying very close attention to the meaning behind the everyday words we use and this one in particular stuck out to me this morning when talking with Adriana.

I did some research and the phrase first appeared in print in 1531 where it was described as a vessel which had safely cleared the coast.  Years later it was used by Shakespeare in 'Henry VI' as a reference to visibility.

In my experience, it’s typically used to describe a feeling of permission as in the situation at hand is ‘safe to proceed with’ or a feeling of ‘it’s okay to move forward.’

The thing is it looks different to me now because unless we’re literally waiting for our ship to clear the coast,  it doesn’t make sense to think we know when it’s clear to cross or pass or say “yes” or “no” as long as we are waiting for outside circumstances, events or people to give us the go ahead.

So, how do you know when to take a leap or chance or to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to an opportunity or whatever question is right in front of you?

It may seem too simple however, I’m always being pointed back to the knowing that:

We simply know when we know.  

In conversations with my clients it often comes up that sometimes we want our outside circumstances or someone else to give the go ahead or the halt.

Not us.  Someone or something else to pull the trigger on what we want.


It seems as though we think we can blame them or the situation if things don’t go the way we thought they should.  
Knowing that there’s no way to ever really know how things will look or what result will occur, we can safely proceed in the direction of our dreams or whatever looks like

The next step.

Which from our eyes and the thinking we have in the moment can appear to us in the form of looking and feeling like

A wild adventure or
A simple step or
A big, scary leap or
A logical thing to do


Simply the only thing that makes sense to us in the moment.

In my experience, it’s the very next step that gives us the gorgeous unfolding of what wants to move through us now.

And when we ignore it and get all up in our thinking and Father Knows Best towards it, we miss out on all of the beauty and miracles created just for Us.  Right now.

Your ship is always clearing, again and again, as life moves through you taking you to the coast.

We are always Home.


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Thank You (a reflection)


These two little words can carry with them so much impact.  The main definition is the expression of gratitude.

Lately I've been sitting in the feeling of deep appreciation and love. When you drop into the feeling of appreciation, you let go of your need for certain conditions and step into the rush of potential and abundance.

Life is working for you.

To me the words “Thank You” are a simple and profound expression of connection, appreciation and love.

How we express it moves, shifts, evolves and changes from moment to moment.

How are you expressing appreciation right now?
Who are you connecting with on a soul level today?
Where in your business are you feeling expansion and a wave of energy?
What do you love that you do?

Sometimes just taking a minute to reflect on these questions can break us out of our conditioned thinking and remind us of who we really are, and that’s

Pure love and infinite potential.

So, for right now, just go do your thing, in your own way; appreciating all of the lessons, opportunities and challenges you see and experience today.

Love (and live) now.

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When the Current is Pulling You.


When I’m talking with friends or sometimes during coaching sessions, they’ll mention the “whispers” they get to do this or that; and I often hear the phrase, “I’m just following the breadcrumbs.”  

Personally for me, I just don’t see it that way anymore.

It feels more like a current pulling me one way or the other.  

What I mean by the current is basically just life moving through you.  

Pulling you to go this way or that way.
Pulling you to talk to this person or that person.
Pulling you to take a jump, the leap or a hurdle.

To the very next spot (or lily pad :)

It looks to me that when we try to fight the current, the nature of this pull; we often struggle, wrestling with what we think life should look like or what we should or shouldn’t do.

This shows up in our projects as well.

We often think that we know exactly what the answer is.  This to me is more often due to all of the conditioning we had as kids and young adults to...

Get the perfect answer
Say just the right thing
Act exactly like we are told (I’m pretty sure that’s why it’s called acting)

Versus letting ourselves or the project at hand unfold,

In magical ways we couldn’t have possibly foreseen

And then it just shows up FOR you.

You know the times when it looks obvious.

When you run into that exact person that was just on your mind yesterday
When your project takes a turn in what seems like the worst possible way, and then it suddenly flourishes.
When you have a question on your mind and the perfect book with the answer appears.

You might call these moments “luck” or “synchronicity” or the “law of attraction.”

I’ll leave you with a few questions to sit with if you’d like to explore further.  

The answers may seem obvious and as though we have no choice.  Just notice what comes up for you as you reflect on these questions, and the feeling behind the words.

  1. What about all the millions of not-so-obvious ways life is moving through me?

  2. What if I just ride the wave and all of the ripples along the way pull me?

  3. What would it be like if I let go of trying to determine where I’m headed next?

I’ll leave you now with the lyrics of the song “Ripple” by the Grateful Dead.

Enjoy the ripples, and this brand new day!


RIPPLE by the Grateful Dead:

If my words did glow with the gold of sunshine

And my tunes were played on the harp unstrung

Would you hear my voice come through the music

Would you hold it near as it were your own?

It's a hand-me-down, the thoughts are broken

Perhaps they're better left unsung

I don't know, don't really care

Let there be songs to fill the air

Ripple in still water

When there is no pebble tossed

Nor wind to blow

Reach out your hand if your cup be empty

If your cup is full may it be again

Let it be known there is a fountain

That was not made by the hands of men

There is a road, no simple highway

Between the dawn and the dark of night

And if you go no one may follow

That path is for your steps alone

Ripple in still water

When there is no pebble tossed

Nor wind to blow

You who choose to lead must follow

But if you fall you fall alone

If you should stand then who's to guide you?

If I knew the way I would take you home